I have already recollected, now it’s your turn to do so…………………The Golden Era.

The life is full of uncertainty, where one day is full of joy and the next day comes with everlasting grief and soreness. One day you surrounded by your hundreds of friends and next day however hard you tried you are unable to find a single friend or good wisher around you. And lots more are there but I am not going to introduce all …… coz somehow you need to chew the memory but the golden memory.

So here I am going to share my all time darling moments. But.. But.. But… But..But…I know critics are there who will say that what nonsense this guy is writing every time. But for your kind information my friend if you really respired your childhood and your teenage you will not complain.

Without any hesitation ,and without hiding anything I’ll share my memories except the names of the persons who are co related with it,coz may be they don’t like that.

 # Year 1992 I was in 2^nd standard ,to small and going to school with “Chaddi”  to wear a  pant is like a wonder. In that year we have very streak teacher all the boys and girls are  afraid of him too much including me. But how much we afraid ????We don’t know ,because we haven’t measured .

But thanks to my teacher that he given us that measure also. When one fine day he was shouting on one of my friend,and in extreme circumstances he can’t stop his self and start “pissing” ,his hands are vibrating ,he feels very embarrassing ,but irrespectively of all these matter  a person like me is doing research and follows the path that where that urine streamlet is going , some of them are busy to save their bags from the holy water and the rest are laughing.

 #years 1997 ,we are in pantaloons now,( Guajarati ma patlun ),and slowly slowly we started learning…………………………………..

Hey my friend please don’t confused , I am talking about the abusive words ,not about study. Even though I was very studious I am also not surplus from that. I also started “Teri ******* “ ,C*****,B*******,…..etc…etc… I have done a PhD also but that we’ll discuss later on,otherwise I missed today’s train.

In that standard our class teacher allow us to do our homework after 4:00 clock, so like an obedient student and a responsible class representative I was doing my duty in a good way. But after few days I found that one of the group of boys change their place every day during that period of time and they take their seats at wall sides by keeping their faces towards the girls. At that time girls are wearing “Pina-Frock” ( which comes upto knee line ). We didn’t have benches in our class at that time so we sit on the floor ,and as you know its human limitation that we can’t sit for long time with crossed legs on the floor however some relief required, and that relief is a fun for those guys who were sitting against the girls… hope you get my point, but this is not finished yet. After a deep observation on their murmuring I came to know about this matter, so I thought dude just go ,sit and tried, as far as your image is concern no one suspect that you are also taking part in this fun mania.

But “ karam ni kathanai “(my bad luck). I found poor in this field and one girl recognized that what we people are doing… I swear I haven’t seen anything, but just sack of my inability all those dudes lost their fun mania not for that day but forever.

# its nothing like love you can say it’s just attraction in 1998 which I feel like love at that time, but the worst part is, me and my friend both having heavy crush on the same girl “aur hum dono saath me line marte the “irrespective of the result that however if her answer will be yes anyone of us has to sacrifice.

Today peoples are interested in shortcuts including me , but in age of 13 I was not like that , I was always choosing the longest path only…. Don’t miss understand this as my good conducts or willingness, it was because she comes everyday by that way, and I didn’t want to miss the single chance to see her.

# you have heard about mountain tracking so many time, I don’t even know what was that in past so you can say its biggest achievement of my life that “ we brought coir-rope ( Gujarati me “ Kathi”  Hindi me “ Sutli” ) and take that to the second floor of my friends building. And we know the coir-rope is very rough, but I didn’t care at that time, a small fraction itself torn out your skin but who cares………

We didn’t climb but we slide from second floor to ground by using that coir-rope, what else I can say about my hands it’s like a Farmer’s Farm after plough….

Then also I was fortunate and unfortunate in two different ways … I was fortunate because “Spoon” was invented long back and it was available also in my home, but commode( Desi language me Sandash,Toilet,Paykhanu,Sauchalaya) with automatic flush which keeps your hands free was not available…

Bas WO to main aur meri tanhayee janati hain ki Maine apana pi6wada_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _.

# When I was in 12^th ohhhh let me make it clear first………. Hope this topic is belongs to more than 30 people.

So in 2004 Gujarat education board has created a CD of all subjects like physics, chemistry, and biology for science stream. We people also using this for enhancing our knowledge but not always.

One fine day we all friends gathered for our tuition and we got the call from our sir that ,he is not feeling well and he will not going to take today’s class, and it was a Sunday. All fertilize minds starts thinking what to do? And only one guy give a best idea can we enjoy the B_ _ _ FILM? And with cheers all guys accepted.

It was my first experience we gathered at one of my friend’s place and we stared our first journey on this path…. And I was amazed all guys are silent, but as I stated it was new to me I can’t stop myself to laugh after watching this. And all of sudden somebody knocks the door….  We don’t understand what to do .but one guy stand up and check, one uncle came inside and asking what all you guys doing here …

The question was in solo but the answer was in Chorus

“We are watching the ‘B I O L O G Y   – CD ‘for our examination.

And I really don’t know after this for how many times my other friends are using this same excuse when accidently someone caught them to watching B_ _ _ FILM.

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Going to school with cycle, enjoying the panipuri on road side, teasing the girls with clean heart, giving pet names to our teachers and friends, quarreling in morning then also share the same team in evening..So on….

Today we people are busy in earning name, fame and money… Do we ever think? Where those days gone?

Its 1001 % sure we can’t do the same that what we did in past … we can’t behave in the same manner that how we behave before 10 or 15 years back.

But the only thing we can do ,,, we can be simple, we can keep smiling, we can keep alive our childhood in our heart, we can behave in same fashion with all the guys irrespective  of their designation,position,religion,caste,colour,country.

Till date however people you hurt… go and say sorry to them…. and take oath today that you will not need sorry for next.

“Marjee chahe iktthe kar lo paise hire moti

Magar khayal itna rakhana kafan KO jeb nahi hoti “

Do we betray ourselves in keeping relationship?

Dear Friend

When you start reading this, year 2011 has already lost 37 days .But why we need to think in negative way ,just think  about the rest 328 valuable days. If still you haven’t taken any oath that what you want to achieve or which way you are going to draw your relation.It’s not too late. Here it’s some sarcastic explanation on the “RELATIONSHIP” that what people are drawing now-a-days.

I am the mediator to share these with you on my friend’s behalf ,named “DAX”

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Quite often, I have observed that some of us tend to betray ourselves in many occasions. We try to reveal ourselves the way actually we are not. We pretend to be just to our relationship. Unfortunately, I have seen my “SO CALLED” friends who are possessed by the same tendency. At the first, one can define that what a healthy relation he or she is keeping but in fact, the relation is built on the foundation of falsehood and deception. There may be handful persons who know me heart-by-heart. There are plenty of persons surrounding me who points the fingers towards me saying that this fellow is orthodox who pretends to abide to principles whether a good or bad the situation is!  Perhaps, some of you may think that this fellow wants to prove that he is the “PERFECT” one. I do not want to defend myself but would like to say something……..

No one is perfect and no one is God that does not commit mistakes.  I opine, though we are not perfect or God but do we try at least to be just to our relationship without expecting any reward or benefit? Perhaps, we should ask to our inner soul in silence. We must get answer. I have seen number of people who are willing to go beyond their reach to help someone (especially in case of GIRLS) whereas in the similar fashion, when a true friend really wants support, the same are hiding themselves. They cannot even try to spend two minutes with the needed one. They have plenty of times to be available on Facebook or Orkut or other Social Networking Service (sharing unproductive things) but have no time to visit the FRIENDS or to even call. They cannot spend some time from their so called busy schedule with friends instead they are caught engaged on mobile for hours-and-hours. I have also seen the persons having tendency that if the person “X-person” (no matter what how cunning “X” is) keeps a good relation with them they become desperate to be just to “X” and it is a matter of shame that it does not make any difference to them if “X”  betrays their friends/relatives/colleagues. On contrary, they are defending “X” saying that if “X” is good with them, he or she should be considered GOOD.

I do not blame anyone. I understand it is not their fault. Perhaps their ethics allow to do so (?). My point is……we should have some ethics, principle, rules and discipline in whatsoever relation we are keeping.  I cannot understand the meaning of friendship defined by others. Friendship cannot be fulfilled by arranging party, exchanging precious gifts, going for movies, etc; but to stand as a mountain in every circumstances whether good or bad. There should be spirit of sacrifice. Friends should be transparent “the way we exactly are…”. Friendship contains true feelings, love, spirit of let go, spirit of reunion, etc. Fortunately, I have found some handful friends who pass in friendship tests.

Let us take resolution in the NEW YEAR that we should try to justify our relation and at least DO NOT BETRAY OURSELVES IN KEEPING RELATION.

I can’t answer the stones with stones, so perhaps that’s the reason why I never complain.

You can say ‘Rehan’ is a real character. He is like a springing toy in a human body. In 24 years of age, may be everyone can behave like an impudent in this age but he is the one among thousands in politeness, wisdom and in credulousness. I have never seen a person laughing as freely as Rehan. Often he visits all the friends’ home and never missed a chance to take the blessings from their parents by giving him a gentle respect. Even tea and coffee is also addiction for him so it’s nonsense if I talk about wine or smoke. By watching a strange girl he become wither, and on the other hand when he is talking with a young girl he is a real “Gentleman” .In a young age he keep alive his childhood in himself.

We often say to Rehan let’s go,,,, and get marry now…. you have to leave your childhood and he replied

My mom also says like that only,,,, but for marry….. Girl should be there !!!!!!!!  But how can I abscond my childhood and after that he become silent…..

His philosophy is very simple that “until and unless I am not getting marry with the one all the girls are my sisters. So I think he is too virtuous to this obstinate & curved world.

One fine day, on a golden Sunday morning he comes to me with snuff colored sherwani and looks very happy, and inform me that  he got engaged now. Her name is “Suhana” he tells me with very shyness. Suhana is also a character of fairy-tale but she is a real girl of 21^st century, so I was little afraid whether she can accept my credulous Rehan or not.

Rehan himself understood that things within a month, that suhana is very nice girl but she is not alive with the philosophy which a prime part of Rehan’s life. She is interested in expensive gifts and movies and restaurant’s foods which is quite impossible for Rehan in his earlier career, it doesn’t mean that he is not love her but he need time…… So one night he sits to write a letter…

Dear Suhana

Smiling is my alternate name but don’t think that I don’t know the meaning of seriousness. I have a small family, with a small ambitions palm. My father loves a lot like his favorite Hindi Ghazals and My Mom loves me like poet’s poetry. My Sister is married and living happy now. But my mom and sister have a drawbacks that My mom never be your mother-in-law ,coz she can only be your good mother only, my sister never be a your sister-in-law ,coz she can be your loving sister only. To having old flat & vehicle in A ‘bad how much it worth you cannot imagine. I have a bank account and mostly it is empty, but please you don’t worry once we will together I will definitely manage. Might be my present is not that much bright but I am sure our future will be very vivid .India itself a mysterious country where a guy who was selling fruits on his handcart be superstar ‘DilipKumar’.The guy (Advocate) who failed to tell lie become a father of Nation by his soul’s transparency .I have also that much capabilities once you will come you will realize.

Meanwhile when he is writing the phone Rings, her mother picked up the receiver…

She asked who is this? And she was suhana’s mother on the other side..

Rehan’s mother asks when the good time will come when Rehan & Suhana get marry…. In replied of that she got that ……………. N E V E R …. Ever.

Suhana doesn’t want to marry with Rehan… then receiver was there on cradle.

The phone was continue for 15 sec but gives an everlasting shock. Rehan mother takes the letter read and give it back to Rehan again, and ask him to finish the letter, but she insist to right that ……….

Suhana by breaking this relation you have lost “world’s greatest loving Mother-in-law & father-in-law  … & an Excellent & precious Husband .God will give you all the happiness in your life what you desire now  … but whenever you feel something missing please remind all of us..@ That time you will realize what the difference between money/estate & virtues is.

That was the end of the letter…………………………………………………………

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So sometimes when I think like a devil… a cruel devil I feel that cant Rehan told some lies in front of her? Can’t he borrow some money from someone and take some expensive gifts for Suhana? Why it’s needed to be very simple and transparent in front of a girl like Suhana?

But when I really think by my inner soul I understand that Suhana doesn’t want to marry with a Man she want to marry with the “Passbook/ the Damn bank passbook” which consist Money not feelings.

But its god’s blessings only that Rehan’s life is not vanished … you can say it’s a small and significant sign of God to him. Otherwise how big tremble will occur in his life..

Might be his transparency saved him …otherwise not only laughing he forget to cry too.

So it’s a small message to all my friends … be transparent and be simple…no need of any show off, may be it will create a layers on human’s eye but not on God’s.

No… No…. No… I am Ritesh Arya and I am not terrorist …..

Yet again …………..I think every friend of mine who is reading the blog they are thinking what a garbage headlines Ritesh putting every time. But my dear friend when I am going to start writing about the past experience I was not thinking too much to write but just thinking that what was going on in my mind when I have been gone through that situation.

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Flight# IC 977- Air India towards Oman ……>>>>

Day # 8^th of November 2010, Sunday

 Location # Muscat, International Airport of Oman sultanate

I think I cannot explain in words that how happy I was. First time I am moving out of INDIA, everything was set. Obviously some grief would be there to go far away from our beloved once, but definitely some contentment is there inside that I am going to abroad. Journey was too cool and healthy in terms of time and food also. But as usual belonging to Gujju family I kept myself away from the glass of wine and whisky which were served by the very beautiful Airhostess……….. Sad but true…….

Again you are thinking where the headlined is,,,, so wait dear  …and keep patient

Now I am at the Airport of Muscat … with carrying the hand-bag and laptop on right shoulder, passport & VISA copy in palm…I went to the VISA counter for collecting  my original VISA which needs to submitted  by the concern in prior before I reached to OMAN.

But as always if I don’t come across any problem, I have to change my name ………so I reached at counter give my passport and VISA copy, the lady who stands at counter pull out the drawer named “INDIAN”, and replied me very courteously

“SIR WAIT HERE YOUR VISA IS NOT SUBMITTED YET UNTILL  AND UNLESS IT WILL NOT SUBMIT YOU HAVE TO WAIT”.

No one believes I feel like the king who has already lost his kingdom in first war. I have taken the first seat to sit put the bag and laptop next to me and waiting for the reply. But I forget this is not INDIA where you can go again and again and inquire about your troubles.

Flights and passengers are coming and going after taking their VISA, and as per human mindset they are looking towards me with full of suspect…that “WHY THIS GUY IS SITTING HERE LIKE THIS WHY THE OFFICERS ARE NOT ALLOW HIM TO GO??? “

DOES HE DO SOMETHING WRONG…???? IS HE A TERRORIST???

I know who I am but the way they looked at me I was shocked though I have dressed well and look like a gentleman.

Up to that I have already finished “HANUMAN CHALISA” twice. And God replied me soon …. Not soon immediately one of the Indian passenger having the same problem, he came to me and sit beside me and but the only difference between us is, he was not new to Oman and he is having local SIM card with him. I felt that God has sent one of his seraphs for help me and take me out of this problem…

I took his cell and called the concern guy and enlighten him that I come across this problem so let me help to come out from this problem. So step by step the process followed and after waiting for more than 3 hours I got the original VISA in my hand, the driver is already waiting for me outside with sigh board, so he picked me up and drop at guest house.

By the way this was the only incident which was trying to scattered me …. But yet again prayers of my parents and beloved once …. Blessings of my elders, good wishes of all my friends works again….

I don’t know that how long I have to stay here but, now I am feeling that I am a native guy of Oman… Till date everything is good and enjoyable, and I hope it will remains, coz I Have a parents like LORD SHIVA and Goddess UMA and a friend like youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.

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Where you are searching the meaning of friendship???

“This letter was written for me by my best friend Daxesh”

Date: May 23, 2007
Dear Ritesh
I apprise you that I am very lucky to get you. I have no words to say about you. Even you are so sincere than me. I am not standing in front of you. You have all the symptoms & good qualities of a good and obedient boy. I am not giving respect to my parents. Even sometimes I think I betray to myself. In all walks of life I am thrashed by everybody like love and friendship… nobody can understand me besides my parents. In all situations and in odd circumstances you are the only one who stands with me as if a mountain. You give me all types of love that I desire from best friend. Being my best friend you have already passed in all examinations. No evidence to prove you are best friend to be needed. Only you are the special one   who tolerates my drawbacks like angerness, obstinate………… I define the definition of a good friend by showing you your qualities…

When I cry I find your eyes wetted. I think I don’t say “I love you” to you because it is not needed to say you. It speaks when tongue is silent. I t speaks when you believe me. It speaks when you take care for me. I realize then you love me. You take care of my bus pass to be issued. If the misunderstanding takes place between u please confess with me because I don’t want to lose you. I promise you that I will be carrying this relation to the grave. In every circumstance I will be with you. Yesterday you told me about Arpit as he was selected for campus and may be you were disappointing with your present result. I don’t want to suggest you because I am in the same boat. I can’t help you because I have to overpower my present drawbacks.

If I was overpowering my drawbacks and I would suggest you, but I have the weapon of prayer for you by which you will be blessed and given strength to overpower your weakness and hey….. Don’t be nervous yesterday night I saw you rushing towards me to tell me that you have chosen for the dynamic and efficient engineer, you are the first who selected .OK! Please try for the dream to be true by your great endeavor. You have the capacity, you have the zeal, you have the power, you have the blessing of the Almighty God, you have the love of your parents, and you have the great support of me. So now you can understand what I am going to say is! Please go through tour flash back and you will be realizing that what were you? What capacity you have? What a brilliant students you were who never defeated by the drawbacks and weakness.

Now Ritesh common arise from bed and catch my words and fly with wind and prove yourself. It is the time to tackle your difficulties. Let the people of the world around you know what you can do and what are you .show your ability and stop them point towards you that this fellow is nothing. Stop them saying that this fellow has no capacity. Ritesh I want you to grow up. I want to see you on the top of the mountain peak of your success.
NO POWER ON THE EARTH CAN SUPRESS YOU FOR A LONG TIME.
LOVE YOU
Dax (your loving Brother)

A journey which was started with Rs. 4500

It was hot, a month of June and why not coz Ritesh is at home and doing, nothing. He doesn’t have anything except the degree of engineering, might be he was rich with his mind but he was extremely poor with his mark sheets. It doesn’t mean that he didn’t try to boost up his self but his recent past doesn’t allow him to grow up. He is ready to run on the parallel track coz he knows that whom he love mean her G/F already got a job in a good firm with good salary around 15,000Rs per month. But he was still happy by thinking that at least one of them having a good job. He often went for temples for his lover one, and pray that “oh almighty whatever you have planned about me I don’t care but at least keep her happy in any situation”

And as always god grants his wishes, she is so happy even today also,,,,,,,,,, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it’s another thing that she is not with him now coz she doesn’t required his love and prays.

On 7^th of august he got the call  from GOL(Guj Online Ltd)for job opening and offering 4500Rs per months and location would be anywhere in Gujarat and before that he has to undergo through the training for month and need to pay 15k.

And it was not misplaced if I said on that day only he digs his own funeral with his own hand by told her lover-one that he is going to join XYZ Org for 4500Rs per months. His transparent love doesn’t allow him to say lie in front of her, and might be that was the reason he lost her for forever.

25^th of June 2008 the day when Ritesh move out from his native relocated @ “Surendranagar” for his first job and he himself not satisfied with his job but what else he can do , his heart was full of grief . but I think this is not enough for him, and suddenly on 28^th of sep 2008 after having one year of relation his inspiration, his motivation, his destiny, his love his G/F simply told him that “I am not feeling comfortable with you,I don’t want to keep any relation with you ,my parents will not allow me to marry with you so it’s better you forget me …. Good bye…”

Even the enemy can think twice before doing like this while the guy is already half murdered. The mountain of soreness again lies on him but he was always thankful to all his friend like Daxesh,Amee,Arpit and kruti who helps him any all the critical circumstances.

It was fact that on 28^th if he doesn’t have call from Daxesh then he will not more with us.Arpit was also with him in any of the small problem.

Basic needs are also hard to get @ that place ,however fresh you are after taking bath but once you  came out from your home after 5 min you cannot figure out yourself in mirror in that much dust he spent his 4 months. Water is also that much dirty that he never found the bottom of the water jug in his 4 months in surendranagr.

But really thanks to god he find his parents there also in “Patel saheb “ and “Ben” and how he can forget the last day in surendranagr when his landlord said his real parents that “ tame to maro dikro lai jao chho ( you are going to take away one of my son )”

Day’s passes he got transfer at his home boost up himself and fortunately he was getting selected for AGCL G’nagar .But this time everything is set and get good neighbors in Rakeshbhai & Sunita auntie who really helps him a lot till they were with him. After a year at least he got a good benchmark in his team with his own simplicity and caring nature.

So,

Problems are there but God always helps his child… ………………………………………. and Ritesh is an Example..

Dedicated to…..

Dax #  friend & more than brother.

Arpit,Amee,Sheetal,Kruti #    friends and my good wishers.

Patel saheb & his wife  # who loves and treats me like his Son.

Arpan ,Kalpesh, Aashish,Naidyu(Abhi),Arjun # my all GOL friends.

Lakhdheer singh Parmar # who help me out in so many places in surendranagar.

And my “ Almighty – God”

“Nowhere to be found of dignity” the immeasurable pain.

      “He is not egoist “

He doesn’t know since when exactly he saw himself on the peak of anything. It was a god gift, the blessing of his mom and the conducts of his dad that he was very intellectual in his studies. If once he decided that he  want to come first this time in class, he was… if he decided that he want to be a student who can get the highest mark in math’s/science ,however the difficult question paper it was , he stood first.

Apart than this he was a prime part of any cultural activities not only in schools but in the common society too. Here is one example of his burning desire, one his friend named Agnel (Badu); he is the only one who knows how to play the keyboard in the age of 13, they both are similar in each and every manner but Agnel is one step ahead than him in that filed called music. Since beginning he was a good singer  but he doesn’t know even the M of music .but no way how can he was lagging , he decided to go to music class and no one believes  he  learnt Harmonium  & Tabla too.

In Study, music, dancing, allocution, instant allocution, society programs, as class representative, a prime part of decoration competition, rangoli competition, everywhere he found himself on top .He was a small child at that time so he can’t understand but girls were eager to sit beside him in tuitions, eager to be his partner in any of the completion or in dance.

All his teachers love him like their sons, and all his friends parents ask his friends to be like him.

So you are thinking where the title is missing.

“Nowhere to be found of dignity” the immeasurable pain.

This journey was begun since when he completed his 12^th science; he got passed that’s it I don’t want to say anything more on that. The boy who is getting around 90% in 10^th and with confidently who said that “ke admission ke liye log hamare ghar par aayenge “was now speechless.

Got the admission in the engineering and the boy is now entered in field where he found every is superior to him. He found his self abandoned in a corner.

The professors are very far away even his classmates are not interested to know him. Helpless, speechless, he was moving forwarding for his careers.

And a day came when in front of the whole class, Principal of the college with Mr. Bhakher the lecturer beside stated that “this type of students required special classes “as he scored just 5.6 out of 10 in first semesters. Only he knows that how he survives, the distance from peak to valley he covers in a fraction of seconds.

The most horrible years he passed in this way…………………………. Abandoned

And due to that condition he got the performance score that much that evens a small firm is not allowing him for campus interview.

This is all about………………………………

But he makes this as a weapon and now he is at good position ….so what he learnt from his life

“Whenever god takes something away from your hand he is not punishing you but merely he is emptying your hand to receive something better”

And revelation is that his name is also “ Ritesh Arya “